The chances are that you are perfectly able to control your emotions. You may be less able however, to spot when you are making decisions based on emotion.
Disputes and conflict always arouse emotions. Feelings of having been wronged or of being cheated or intimidated can be very powerful. Such emotions show themselves in different ways. You might find yourself saying something like, “I’m going to make sure he/she pays for this”, or at the other end of the emotional spectrum you may say something like, “please just make it go away”, or “I just want my life back”.
In either case you are thinking emotionally. If you can recognize this you are on your way to thinking objectively instead.
Objectivity allows you to make rational, considered decisions based on the merits of any given argument or case. Answers to questions such as, “What will I get out of this?” and “how likely am I to succeed?” can only be properly considered when thinking objectively.
Being objective will not only help you avoid expensive mistakes. It will give you a significant advantage over your opponent. Who either isn’t thinking objectively or is underestimating your ability to do so.